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KUALA LUMPUR, Malaysia: Polygamy is legal for Muslims in Malaysia, though not widespread. The Ashaari clan believes it should be.
Last month it launched a "Polygamy Club" that claims the noble aim of helping single mothers, reformed prostitutes and women who feel they are past the marrying age.
  • "We want to change the way people perceive polygamy, so that it will be seen as something beautiful instead of something disgusting," said Hatijah Aam, the founder of the club. She is the fourth wife of Ikramullah's father, Ashaari Muhammad.
  • Polygamy may seem out of place in an Asian democracy proud of its skyscrapers, high-tech skills and go-getter economy.
  • Ashaari, the family patriarch, used to head an Islamic sect that was banned in 1994 as heretical because it projected Ashaari as an absolver of sinners.
  • Most of the Polygamy Club members belonged to the sect, and there's nothing illegal about how they live now, so long as they're Muslims.
  • For the one-third of the population that isn't Muslim, polygamy is unlawful.
  • The practice used to be more common but has dwindled to an estimated 2 percent of all Muslim marriages as women have become freer and careers have opened up for them.
  • "Some people treat polygamy as a laughing matter because they do not fully comprehend it," says Ikramullah, a jovial businessman and son of his father's first wife.
  • The club claims to number 300 husbands and 700 wives. It hopes to cultivate examples of happy households to counter women's rights activists who say some spouses and children suffer in polygamous marriages.
  • Club members say polygamy deters adultery and would improve the marriage prospects of ex-prostitutes if more men were available to marry them.
  • But Shahrizat Abdul Jalil, the Muslim female minister in charge of family policy, says polygamy "is not a culture that is encouraged in our society."
  • Sisters in Islam, an advocacy group campaigning against polygamy, says it isn't good for women.
  • "If people choose to be monogamous, there are enough men for every woman," it said in a statement to The Associated Press.
  • One opponent of polygamy is a 42-year-old business executive who asked to be identified only as Sharifah.
  • She said she threatened to divorce her husband of nearly 15 years after he told her last year that he had fallen in love with a divorced mother of three, felt she needed help, and wanted to marry her.
  • "I felt like my fairy tale had ended," Sharifah said.
  • "He was my soul mate. I couldn't believe it was happening. Then I started to scream at him." She said some people told her that agreeing to a second wife would secure her place in heaven.
  • But Sharifah, the breadwinner for her two children and jobless husband, refused to give in. The couple underwent marriage counseling and Sharifah's husband has promised not to marry the other woman.
  • Kartini, 41, says polygamy has served her well; while she was busy arguing court cases, her husband's first wife would cook, clean and look after the children.
  • "The wives can complement each other," she said.
  • "Of course, you miss your husband and there are natural feelings of competition and jealousy at first.
  • But after a while, you try to become friends and you learn that you can share your problems with each other."
  • The club says most of its husbands keep each spouse in a home of her own unless the women agree to live under one roof. Many husbands rotate their days among households.
  • The tight-knit family is concentrated in Rawang, a town outside Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia's largest city.
  • The club is funded by the family's grocery stores, restaurants and other businesses. It plans to offer matchmaking, wedding planning and marriage counseling.
Source: AP
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